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Everybody wants love in their life. Especially with Valentine’s Day coming up.
But first, we need to deal with those annoying myths and theories that seem to have made their ways into our culture.
It is just that these days we have so much more ‘stuff’ to worry about. Social conventions. Expectations. Feminism. Romantic comedies. Valentines day. And Valentines day gifts, all of those new hassles.
For the last 50 years we have had generations of men raised on the ever so changing norms in the world of dating and romance. Is it any wonder that when these same guys go out into the real world of relationships and dating they wind up like lambs to the slaughter… having their hearts broken while thinking they are doing everything the way they ought to?
Now for those dear men, here is a guide that will help them determine, understand and navigate the new ways of love prior to the most romantic week of the year:
Setting the record straight
If you accept the ‘commonsense’ of the depicted romance in TV shows and movies (and books, and talk-shows, and magazines and songs) then what happens when you find yourself in an actual relationship? We tell you what. You continue the behaviour of a needy, low self esteem guy who will ‘do anything’ for his woman. So the first thing that you must do is be authentic. Getting all fidgety and nervous is not going to solve your problems at all!
And that’s how you drive her away
In the beginning of this article, we promised to tell you the core secrets to attracting love and happiness into your life (and the right woman). Well, those same secrets are also the key to winning back a lost love as well. Be an attentive listener to the lady who you fancy. The key to finding love and romance in your life is simple. What is difficult is staying in this love filled relationship. Maintaining a good relationship is essential if you wish to acquire the date of your dreams. Keeping your dearest’s interest is the main accomplishment of any relationship.
What it all comes down to
At the end of the day. There are only two things you need to be the type of guy that attracts quality women into your life. Everything else you need flows from those two essentials.
Number one is confidence. Confidence is like catnip for women. Put any woman in a room with a truly confident guy and she will be attracted to him. Every time.
Confidence is even more powerful if you are NOT the good-looking stud that you think you are. If you are physically unattractive, are bald, or short, or fat and you are truly confident anyway. Then women automatically know there must be something really special about you for you to be able to act in that way.
But even before confidence. You need to develop a high sense of self-worth. Of self-esteem. Everything else flows from that.
If you have a truly high sense of self-esteem, then you can do almost everything else wrong, and women will still flock to you (and be reluctant to ever leave). It’s literally like a magnet.
However, self-esteem is not something that can be faked.
Though you can develop it
When it is all said and done, when you transform yourself into the guy who is competent (knows his stuff), is quietly confident in everything he does. And is an individual who is unafraid to go after what he wants. You will be able to attract a lost love, or for that matter, any woman that you truly desire, into your life.
The best place to start is to become competent around women.
Combating V-Day expectations
Once you have been able to catch your lady’s attention, make sure you keep putting the effort to convert your relationship from casual dating to forever Valentine.
Remember that most women wish to be pampered. They like lying in a hot bath with aroma candles softly lighting the bathroom. After such a bath a woman wants to wrap herself in comfort. If your lady likes such things you may want to get her a pamper pack which includes a luxurious bathrobe, candles, candies and champagne. This is where you use your imagination – create a present of your own by putting together the things your woman likes the most.
The most important thing to take note of is that this day is important for all women. It is very much like a birthday, or a wedding anniversary. The difference is that you do not have to spend a lot of money to make a woman happy on this day – just remembering her on this occasion plus some candies with a greeting card will make a woman feel special and admired. But do remember what she wants for gifts. Some women will not be satisfied by a simple box of candies and flowers. Some would like to receive expensive jewellery, accessories or a personalised card. If you cannot come up with a gift for your lady on Valentine’s Day you can always ask for advice from her friends or even slip a leading question to find out what she wishes for.
